By: Rodney Young
All this garbage about guys staying out of a girl's "friend zone" is just stupid. I got a WIFE.... a QUALITY WOMAN by being a friend first, treating her like a sister. I didn't have to do all the work of playing mind & emotional games with her. I didn't have to flirt or act like a player to get her interested. Fellas, it's GOOD to be in the "friend zone" - don't let society tell you otherwise!
I Timothy 5:1-2 NIV
Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
So, HOW can you benefit from treating a girl you're interested in like a sister?
1. You get to know the "real her".
I'm blessed to have 2 beautiful, intelligent sisters. If you have sisters, you know how the relationship is.... they don't feel like they need to "front" with you! You know their ups and downs, qualities and quirks. When you start off flirting and trying to impress, the fronting begins! When you treat a girl like a sister, she'll feel more comfortable to be herself.
2. You can develop trust.
When you know someone for a while without the pressure of trying to impress them, you can see their character and know how you can trust them! This is important - if you eventually want to enter a God-honoring dating relationship with her, you need to be able to trust her! When I was interested in my wife, I was her friend first, and I saw how she treated people over time, and I knew I could trust her.
3. You might just realize you don't want to date her!
This happened to me many times! LOL In college, I met a few girls I was interested in, so I just treated them like sisters. I ended up finding out stuff about them that made me say, "Never Mind"! If you make this decision BEFORE you start dating, it saves a ton of heartbreak and bad feelings.
SOOOO - don't "avoid" the Friend Zone! Be a brother in Christ to women, and you'll make wiser decisions about dating!
I Timothy 5:1-2 NIV
Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
So, HOW can you benefit from treating a girl you're interested in like a sister?
1. You get to know the "real her".
I'm blessed to have 2 beautiful, intelligent sisters. If you have sisters, you know how the relationship is.... they don't feel like they need to "front" with you! You know their ups and downs, qualities and quirks. When you start off flirting and trying to impress, the fronting begins! When you treat a girl like a sister, she'll feel more comfortable to be herself.
2. You can develop trust.
When you know someone for a while without the pressure of trying to impress them, you can see their character and know how you can trust them! This is important - if you eventually want to enter a God-honoring dating relationship with her, you need to be able to trust her! When I was interested in my wife, I was her friend first, and I saw how she treated people over time, and I knew I could trust her.
3. You might just realize you don't want to date her!
This happened to me many times! LOL In college, I met a few girls I was interested in, so I just treated them like sisters. I ended up finding out stuff about them that made me say, "Never Mind"! If you make this decision BEFORE you start dating, it saves a ton of heartbreak and bad feelings.
SOOOO - don't "avoid" the Friend Zone! Be a brother in Christ to women, and you'll make wiser decisions about dating!
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